How to Choose a Wedding Photographer Who Gets You
Choosing a wedding photographer isn’t just another item on your to-do list. It’s choosing someone to witness your story, to see you clearly, and to hold your memories with care.
So how do you know when a photographer truly gets you? How can you be sure they’re not just a visual match, but an emotional one too?
Here’s what to look for when making this meaningful decision.
1. Start With What Matters Most
Before diving into portfolios and pricing guides, pause. Ask yourself: What do I want to remember? Not just what it looked like, but how it felt.
Do you value honest, documentary-style images that reflect the day as it unfolded? Or are you drawn to softer, more composed portraits? Would you prefer someone who offers gentle direction, or someone who blends quietly into the background?
When you're clear on what you care about, you'll know it when you see it.
2. Look Beyond the Highlights
Portfolios are a curated glimpse. To truly understand a photographer’s work, look at full galleries.
Pay attention to how the story flows. Do the quiet moments feel just as intentional as the big ones? Is there consistency in style and quality throughout the day? Do you feel something when you scroll?
That connection matters.
3. Ask the Questions That Matter
Beyond the basics like availability and packages, ask about their philosophy. Try questions like:
What draws you to wedding photography?
How do you support couples when the day doesn’t go as planned?
How do you approach moments of emotion or overwhelm?
Their answers will tell you if they’re showing up with intention, not just a camera.
4. Notice How You Feel
You’ll spend a lot of your wedding day with this person. Do you feel comfortable in conversation? Do you feel seen and understood?
The right photographer will make space for you to be fully yourself. And when you feel safe to be real, the photos will reflect something deeper than aesthetics. They’ll feel like you.
Trust Yourself
This isn’t just about style or price. It’s about presence. Choose someone who resonates with you, who brings ease and understanding, who feels like a steady presence in the middle of everything.
Because when you trust the one holding the camera, your love has room to shine—and that’s what you’ll want to remember most.